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  1. Jolene Wright (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 9:45 am

    I read this letter with tears running down my face. It was perfect in every way! If this powerful letter doesn’t get a response, it might just be my breaking point. I will pray with all my heart that you get a loving and heartfelt reply. Even if there is no black and white answer right now, this deserves to be addressed with love and empathy by the leaders.

  2. Lisa Glad (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 9:51 am

    Wow, Jeff. This is SO powerful and SO TRUE. I truly hope that Elder Rasband takes this back to the leaders, that they can open their hearts to the pain and desperation in our LGBTQ+ members and families, AND open their hearts to the wonderful souls that are part of the church! We are all missing out on the beauty and strength that could be enjoyed by ALL, if full inclusion and love became available and stated from the highest pulpits. I send you MY love, from the heart of a mother of two queer daughters, who mourns with you.

  3. Kristin (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 11:42 am

    Thank you that was so beautifully written. Our family too is blessed with a LBGTQ child and has mixed feelings about the messages we receive and the future we strive for in our family. If only all members could feel this open, loving, and inclusive for all those around and among us.

  4. Me (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 11:56 am

    Original texts in the bible never condemned homosexuality that reference was later added to replace original text discussion that man was to not lay with “little boys”…(go read a bible in German from 70 years ago) if folks could correctly see this change they would realize every phrase was in reference to grown men not being with children….then the LDS church might notice a problem with their stance on it also, but the LDS is all lies anyways, so not holding my breath they will make changes. Heck if the prophet can roll into Africa on his comfortable plane and tell the starving communities they owe more in tithes God would then give them blessings (they need water and food and shelter)…then off goes the prophet and wife blinged out in suits, jewelry and a private jet….The church doesnt care about all the suicides it’s causing, it cares about its image and profits.

  5. Ryan Roberts (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 11:58 am

    I like I’m at that crossroads now. I’m planning on starting therapy again with some thought in my head that perhaps marriage to a woman is a matter of personal growth with God. But at the same time I fear that therapy will help me come to peace with my sexuality but I’ll have to leave the church and do my best to stay close to Christ on my own.

  6. Holly (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 1:32 pm

    Every word of this letter is agonizing in its truth, breathtaking in its humility, haunting in its simplicity, and overwhelming in its faith.

    With all of my heart and soul, I join you in begging our leaders to actively, diligently seek further light and knowledge regarding LGBTQI. I pray for our leaders to allow revelation to flow into their minds and hearts on how God’s Plan FULLY INCLUDES – not excludes – EVERYONE, including our LGBTQI family.

    I continue to pray to our Heavenly Parents to help me – as a “straight” LDS woman – to be the ally, friend, advocate and decent human They expect me to be. I believe that the true Church of Jesus Christ will only truly welcome, bless, honor, celebrate and support EVERY Child of God on their unique journey. No empty chairs. No exceptions.

    Bless you, dear brother. Thank you for writing that letter, and for sharing it with Elder Rasband and with us. Hold on tight. I promise, you aren’t in this alone. You have a multitude of Latter-day Saints on all sides of the spectrum standing with you, and I believe multitudes on the other side of the veil rooting for you, including our Heavenly Parents and our Savior. Being a pioneer is always relentless and exhausting, but it paves the way to ease a burden for future generations. You are doing that, and I hope I can, too.

  7. Lauralee Solimeno (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    I wrote an op ed about kindness to the LGBTQ community and was put on a 6 month probation. I love you for trying. I hope your response is different. Please emotionally prepare for backlash brother.

  8. Denise Hedelund (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 2:28 pm

    As a mom of a LDS gay son, I thank for your courage. You asked all the questions that I, too, want answered. My heart aches for my son who loves the gospel, but also wants a family and children.

  9. Liberty (reply)

    November 16, 2019 at 7:25 pm

    Jeff, thank you for writing this. You really put a lot of my thoughts into one succinct space. Thank you for your work fighting for this issue. Thank you for listening to the inspiration to get this into Elder Rasband’s hands.
    Love you.

  10. Shanna (reply)

    November 18, 2019 at 5:35 am

    This letter is wonderful! Thank you for staying strong and helping the rest of our LGBT friends.

  11. Scott Jones (reply)

    November 19, 2019 at 10:27 am

    I want you to know that there are some non-LGBTQ members like me writing similar letters to the General Authorities and General Relief Society Presidency — and having continuing discussions with Bishops and Stake Presidents. Your letter is another confirmation of my personal thoughts and feelings. Thank you… and I hope you don’t mind me sharing a couple of your thoughts in future letters and conversations.

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