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081: Meg & Jake Abhau | Part 1: Our Son is Gay

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Thank you to John Dehlin and the Mormon Stories Podcast for providing this interview of Meg and Jake Abhau. This three part series discusses the Abhau family and their journey in understanding their son, Jon’s sexuality. This is an abbreviated … Read the rest here

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Sally Field was already a Hollywood legend long before she became an outspoken ally for LGBTQ families. She started on television in the 1960’s with Gidget and The Flying Nun, then fought her way into more serious roles and won two Academy Awards for Norma Rae and Places in the Heart. Later, she became part of another generation’s movie memory through Steel Magnolias, Mrs. Doubtfire, Forrest Gump, and Lincoln.

Her youngest son, Sam Greisman, is gay. In interviews and speeches, Sally has talked about watching him struggle when he was younger, before he had fully accepted himself and before he was ready to say it out loud. She has described it as a painful thing for a parent to witness, because loving your child does not mean you can remove every fear or wound they are carrying.

In 2012, Field accepted the Human Rights Campaign’s Ally for Equality Award and spoke directly about Sam. She said his journey “to allow himself to be what nature intended him to be was not an easy one,” and that the best thing she could do was stand “visibly to his side.”

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She was blunt about it, too. She told parents not to put their own fears or prejudices about sexuality onto their children. Then she said, “Sam is my youngest son. He’s gay. To that I say: so what?”

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Sally Field has spent much of her career playing mothers, survivors, working women, and people who had to find their voice in public. When she stood at that podium for her son, it was not a performance. It was a mother making sure the world knew exactly where she stood.

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081: Meg & Jake Abhau | Part 1: Our Son is Gay

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