March 29, 2020

Coming Out | Let Me Write My Own Story

“You must write your own story” is what I’ve been taught since I was very young. How many times have we heard “we can be whoever we want to be, if we choose it?” Isn’t it amazing that as we … Read the rest here

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8 hours ago

I’m just out here doing the Lord’s work. 😂😂

Thank you for following along. Thank you for commenting. Thanks to those who share our content. Thank you to those who push back, and thank you for adding your own perspective.

My goal has always been to share stories and experiences that are not always mainstream, not always comfortable, and not always easy to understand. Sometimes our stories are overlooked. Sometimes they are controversial. The point is not that you will agree with every story. The point is that you may finally understand someone else’s.

That is why we talk.

I welcome the bigots, the phobes, the newly out, the curious, the questioning, the seasoned, and everyone still figuring out where they stand. We can have hard conversations. We can disagree. We can share lived experience. We can be civil.

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10 hours ago

I’ve heard it again and again: “You can leave the church, but you just can’t leave it alone.”

Familiar? Yup.

The assumption behind that line is that speaking about the church—especially critically—means you’re bitter, stuck, or unable to move on.

That’s not what’s happening.

When you criticize a system, a lot of people hear it as a direct criticism of them. Not because that’s what you said, but because they’ve tied their identity so closely to the church that the two feel inseparable.

So instead of engaging the issue, they defend the system—because it feels like defending themselves.

That’s why deconstruction matters. It’s a tool.

It creates space to separate your identity from the institution. To ask what you actually believe, and what you’ve simply been taught to accept without question.

Because institutions—churches, governments, communities—can get things wrong. Sometimes in ways that cause real harm.

And people are often taught to overlook that. Not because they can’t see it, but because they’ve been told that calling it out signals disloyalty.

It doesn’t.

Calling something out isn’t about “not leaving it alone.” It’s about refusing to pretend something is fine when it isn’t.

Accountability isn’t betrayal. It’s what keeps systems honest. It’s what allows people inside them to have a fair, honest experience.

And for some of us, speaking up isn’t about staying stuck in the past.

It’s about making sure others don’t have to go through the same things we did.

And for the people who still say it—who think speaking up means I “can’t leave it alone”—here’s something to sit with:

Can you hear criticism of a system without taking it as criticism of yourself?

If the same issue showed up in another church, would you call it out there?

If someone inside the church is being harmed, is staying quiet really the better option?

If you didn’t know this was your church—if you were hearing it from the outside—how would it sound to you?

Is loyalty protecting the institution, or making sure it’s honest?

Because talking about something isn’t the same as being stuck in it.

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